The importance of family meetings

Family meetings are a great way for you to come together as a family to discuss issues that are important to your family.

If the meetings are run correctly, they are an incredible way to connect with family members, and discuss appropriately any problems that come up and that need to be addressed. They also teach your children that you value and care about their thoughts, ideas and opinions and happiness in the family.

Family meetings are great for all children, but usually around the age of 5 is when children start to fully understand the concept. Younger children can always be included and encouraged to join in with the support of an adult.

Here is how to get started with your family –

  What you will need:

  • A timer
  • A speaking object- a small teddy or a wooden spoon
  • Paper and pens

 

Time duration: Set the meeting at the same day/time each week for consistency, and keep it to 15 minutes.

Rules and Expectations: 

  • Only the person holding the speaking object is allowed to talk.
  • Speak for no more than 1 minute at a time
  • Wait for others to finish speaking
  • All ideas are valued and respected

Running the meeting: (Assign the time keeper)

  1. Begin with a warm up game – compliments, categories, eye spy, sweet & sour
  2. Introduce the items you would like to discuss – “Tonight we are going to work together to come up with our family rules.” OR ” I have noticed this week that we have all been yelling at each other alot”.
  3. Allow each member of the family to have a chance to contribute by using the speaking object
  4.  Brainstorm ideas how collectively you as a family are going to solve these issues
  5. Everyone sets personal goals – “I am going to try really hard this week not to yell at you wen I am upset about something”
  6. Close the meeting and thank everyone for listening and participating.
  7. End on a high – everyone gets a n ice cream or sit down to watch a family movie together.

Agenda: set the agenda and purpose prior to the meeting.

  • Introducing family rules and expectations
  • Ideas for Family Day
  • Things we need to work on are….
  • Behaviours that need addressing are….

 

The most important component of Family Meetings is the power of positive communication within your family unit.

It brings you all together in a relaxed, fun and loving way AND most importantly it teaches your children that their role in the family is valued and important.

Love Chrissie xx

“The children who need the most love, will ask for it in the most unloving of ways”

About Chrissie Davies

Chrissie Davies is an educator, consultant, writer, loving mama via an open adoption, and passionate advocate for understanding children with challenging behaviours. Through her consultancy Chaos to Calm, Chrissie specialises in creating understandings and strategies to meet the needs of children with challenging behaviours. She supports both families and teachers to create more awareness of the different ways to use communication and emotional engagement to make positive changes in children’s behaviour.

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